As a baby grows up , it comes into toddler stage , after toddler stage ,baby comes into child stage. At this stage, parents are worried about how to develop attachment with their children and how to guide them for their future development. Some parents remain confused about what parenting method they should go for best development of their child. Whether they should go for Attachment parenting or for Independent parenting . Both these types of parenting have their own pros and cons but parents always try to do best for their child.
Do not compare your parenting method with that of other parents. Every parent knows their child behavior and they always do their best for them. Here, is the parenting guide to help parents more with this , to chose which is best for their child behavior and development.
Attachment parenting
Attachment parenting ensures and adores emotional as well as physical attachment of their child with them. This type of parenting guide is followed for those child who seeks to have more attention from parents , who needs more support from their parents. But is this right to help at every stage of their life , does this type of parenting guide will make them dependent on their parents ? Let’s take a look at pros and cons of this parenting guide.
Pros
- Increases emotional attachment with parents. Everyone needs emotional attachment, everybody needs someone who understands them. A child always wants to be understand by his/her parents. A child who knows that his parents will understand him never lies his parents. A child lies only when ,he/she feels that parents will shout at him/her on their mistake but think of the situation when a child have emotional support and attachment with parents and he/she never hesitates to share their worries and problems with them.
- Build stronger bonding between parents and child. A very famous tagline is ”If you want to know everything of your child ,then try to be his friend rather than a strict parent”. Bond is not created by just fulfilling all the desires and needs of the child, it is created by understanding the child. So, if you are following this parenting guide , you should focus on creating a special bond with your child.
- Increases security. In this today generation, even small child is not safe in society. So what will develop the feel of security and confidence in child ? The simple answer is attachment parenting. Parents are the backbone of their child and if this backbone becomes weak , the child will not able to face the society, the child will not be able to speak and live confidently.
- Reduces anxiety. Anxiety appears only when a child does not feel safe. Anxiety lowers down the child confidence and is responsible for their lack of growth.
- Develops the feeling of support from parents.
Attachment parenting offers so many advantages but it has some disadvantages too. Have a look at it.
Cons
- Sometimes it leads to dependency of child on their parents . A child started to feel that his/her parents are with him so he/she doesn’t needs to do anything. But try to avoid this for better development. Support only when a child really needs your presence. A push is necessary but not a regular push. For example, when a child tries to learn a cycle , just a small push is required and if you never leave the push from behind, the child will never be able to learn cycle.
- Sometimes child become habitual of constant attachment from their parents and a small change in their behavior will affect your child development. Habits developed at young age leaves a mark for whole life. Try to avoid this as a tip of parenting guide for child development.
- Child is everything for parents but sometimes parents also need their time for their refreshment , for their peace of life and somewhere, attachment parenting leaves no time for parents.
- Attachment parenting makes parents to decide everything for their child and somewhere, it hinders their ability to understand their child thoughts and wish. Parents try to do everything for their child and it creates a limited independence for child.
Independent parenting
Independent parenting ensures and adores freedom for their child. It aims to make child independent from a very young stage for better development. This parenting guide will figure out pros and cons of independent parenting.
Pros
- Develops independency in child from a very young stage. Being independent is necessary in this changing world. Everyone have to become independent in life whether early or late. Better development results only when independent nature develops from early stage of life. Children raised with independent parenting are more often capable of doing great things in life.
- Develops self confidence in child. Self confidence enables child to face peoples, situations, fluctuations confidently.
- Helps in brain development. Independent parenting helps child to figure out problems and their solutions on their own, develops the sense of what is right and what is wrong.
Independent parenting has its cons too.. so observe them as well in this parenting guide.
Cons
- Creates lack of emotional attachment with child. Emotional connection is necessary but sometimes during independent parenting, parents think that their child will do this by his own. So, avoid this mistake as a tip of parenting guide.
- Independent parenting may leads to change in child behavior. A child may starts to feel that no one will stop him and he/she can whatever he/she wants. It becomes difficult for child to adapt in new surroundings.
As already discussed, both type of parenting guide has its own pros and cons . The major question arises which type of parenting guide should you choose for your child.?
According to researches made , it is suggested to have a combination of both these types of parenting styles. A mix of these styles will help you a lot to choose best for your child development .
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